8 Reasons Why You Could Be In Overwhelm & How To Overcome The Trap

8 Reasons Why You Could Be In Overwhelm & How To Overcome The Trap

The Overwhelm Trap! Often as parents and carers, we are so busy coordinating and caring; that we aren’t mindful of our own behaviours and emotions. Or if we are, we attempt to suppress and ignore them. With strict care regimes and the necessities of treatments, medications, appointments, specialists, therapies, endless paperwork and advocacy; there just doesn’t seem to be much time left for anything else! Over time, we inevitably come to accept the emotional ups and downs and take them as a ‘given’. We convince ourselves that this is just ‘life’. We find ourselves putting our needs last and accept the fact that what we want and need doesn’t matter anymore; or that no one understands.  It’s so easy to arrive in this place, and it can sneak up on you without you even realising it. Are you caught in the trap? Have you been struggling with any of the following? Decline in physical or mental health Trying to be everything to everybody Uncertainty over the future Little or no support from family and friends Adjusting to the perceptions of your role as a carer Guilt over trying to find time for yourself, or not finding any time at all Financial difficulty, or Finding the right care, resources and support? If you have answered “Yes” to any of these, then you could be headed down the road of overwhelm and heading straight towards burnout. But, here is the good news: it doesn’t have to be that way! Be aware of the signs and symptoms In my experience, characteristics of overwhelm and burnout are different for everybody, but can include: Tiredness/lethargy...
Why self-care is not about you!

Why self-care is not about you!

“…okay if I don’t have space in my cup then I’m not actually able to serve these people, my children, the people that I’m caring for, the way that I want to and I need to” Emma, Tree House Family Counselling     Personally, I believe that the term “self-care” is thrown around so much in the health & wellbeing circles that it has, for the most part, lost its meaning and impact. If I were to ask you to think about the following questions “does self-care mean anything to you” or “what does self-care mean to you?”  What conjures up in your mind?  Does your mind wander to bubble baths, glasses of bubbles, massages, long lunches and day-spa’s?  OR Do your eyes glaze over and your mind shut off?! What conjures up in your mind?  Does your mind wander to bubble baths, glasses of bubbles, massages, long lunches and day-spa’s?  OR Do your eyes glaze over and your mind shut off?! OR Do your eyes glaze over and your mind shut off?! Do your eyes glaze over, roll into the back of your head and your mind shut off?! As much as those luxuries would be super welcome in my life, are they realistic and achievable every day for most of us? NO. The term “Self-Care” by its nature suggest’s it is about “self” but in a caregiving context and even as a person who has responsibility for nurturing & caring for other humans it is anything but. As a carer or parent, you are on call 24/7.  The responsibility is enormous and the stakes are high. What happens...
Does the food we eat really affect our mood?

Does the food we eat really affect our mood?

These days I get about in a few online women’s business groups.  These are mostly women who are fiercely passionate about educating and supporting families in and around health, happiness and well-being. I couldn’t give up the chance to have a few of them come and share their love and passion with you. This week we have the beautiful Teresa from “Thelma & Terese” who is talking all about the relationship between “food and mood”.  She has even gifted us a wonderful nourishing recipe at the end of the blog mmmm. Terese is fiercely passionate about spreading her health message and has an abundance of information on her website if you wanted to check it out (scroll to the bottom where we have all of the links)! Over to you Theresa!     Does the food we eat really affect our mood? Absolutely it does. Feeling irritable, tired, uncomfortable and guilty could be a result of skipping meals, too much caffeine/alcohol, too much refined sugar or overeating. For a stable mood, we need to be eating a balanced whole-food diet at regular meal times with nutritious snacks in between as needed. However, there are many other factors that contribute to how we feel when we look at the way food interacts with our brain and GUT. Neurotransmitters Our brain uses neurotransmitters such as serotonin and dopamine as communication signals to communicate with the rest of our body and tell it what to do. Balanced levels of neurotransmitters in the brain improve mood, sleep and increase alertness. These mood-affecting chemicals and precursors like tryptophan are made of amino acids found...
Nourish Your Mind & Body in 5 Ways

Nourish Your Mind & Body in 5 Ways

To keep us at our best, we know how important it is to nourish our mind and body! We also know that in order to operate at an optimum level and perform everyday, we need to ditch the sweet sugary snacks, processed foods and reduce stimulants such as coffee.  These cause issues with your blood sugar levels, contribute to dehydration, will give you a ‘foggy head’ and will lead to adrenal fatigue (stress hormone).  This is not where we want to be.  I for one don’t want to be concerned about my health when I need to take care of the one’s I love. Check out my 5 strategies to help you nourish your mind and body below:   Hydration Consuming at least 2 litres of water per day is essential for normal bodily functions. Lemon squeezed in a glass of water first thing in the morning is a great way to wake up, is a boost to your immune system and your liver will love you for it. Fail to consume enough and your body will not be able to function properly.   Whole Foods It is no secret that when it comes to food, fresh and colourful is best. Vitamins/minerals, proteins, fats & complex carbohydrates are essential in our diet. Processed food has excess sugar & chemicals will negatively affect our health. These foods really do give us an abundance of energy, nourish every organ and contribute to clearer thinking and better overall performance.  Think fruits, vegetables (green leafy’s), complex carbohydrates, lean protein & good fats.  Flavour with beautiful natural herbs and spices and you are on to a...
“Some days I don’t know how you do it”

“Some days I don’t know how you do it”

My friend sent me a message last week with the words “Some days I don’t know how you do it”.  She often see’s us going through our own ups and downs with the mental and physical health of my son’s.  She saw on Monday that after my son’s 3 week hospital admission, there was little improvement to his health status. My friend, however, is going through an incredibly tough and confronting time herself. The whole family is and has been for many years with her having to face her own serious health battles too. Right now they are facing serious health issues for one of their children and are having to make decisions that will potentially affect the rest of their child’s quality of life. The fact of the matter is, that she is trying to be strong for everyone but is on the verge of cracking herself. Not only is she trying to hold her family together during their own difficult times, she is dealing with grief and uncertainty around the health of one of her friends, who is terminally ill. How do I respond?  We all have our different stuff don’t we?  Differing levels of resilience from person to person and environmental factors can change our ability to cope at any given time.  So my response: “Well I guess I figure all the worry and stress really doesn’t help me or anyone else. In fact, for me it makes it worse. I can’t think clearly, can’t function properly and I sure as hell can’t make decisions effectively. I guess I have practiced it (coping) over a long, long time. Monday, I...