Overwhelm (verb) “bury or drown beneath a huge mass”
I was recently asked “what are the ‘signs’ of burnout/overwhelm?”
Often as parents and carers we are so busy caring and doing our job that we aren’t mindful of our own behaviours and emotions OR we ignore them. Before long, they can become unmanageable and out of control.
For many of us, the chaos that comes with being a caregiver can become our new “normal”. With strict care regimes and the necessities of treatments, medications, physiotherapy, appointments, specialists and other therapies there doesn’t seem to be much time for anything else.
We can come to accept the emotional ups and downs and take them as a “given”, that this is just “part of the job”. Just a few years ago, I found that I was putting my needs last and had accepted the fact that what I wanted and needed didn’t matter anymore. I was not in a good place at all. I had lost my sense of self. It is so easy to arrive in this place and can sneak up on you without you realising it.
BUT. It doesn’t have to be like that AND you don’t have to settle!
After seeking support in many different forms and over time I was able to turn that around and you can too!
What are some of the clear signs that you are headed down the road of overwhelm or burnout? Maybe you are already there?
In my experience, characteristics of overwhelm and burnout are different for everybody but can include:
- Mood changes / mood swings
- Emotionally unstable
- Disengaged / uninterested
- Changes in appetite
- Distracted & forgetful
- Aches, pains, colds & infection
So what can you do to help yourself or the person you are worried about?
I believe there are a few key areas that are critical to overcoming overwhelm. They all impact on a person’s mental, physical and emotional health in one way or another. Some of these key areas include:
PLANNING & ORGANISATION
SAFE PLACE TO LAND
Paying attention and making positive changes in just one of the above areas can have a profound impact on your mental and physical health. It did for me. Seeking varied support both formal and informal is crucial.
To put your hand up and ask for help is NOT giving up, is NOT admitting defeat and is certainly NOT a sign of weakness! It takes a great deal of strength to ask for help.
To that end, providing a safe space for a carer or parent to have the opportunity to speak and share without fear of judgement may be the ONLY thing they need right now. Carer’s and parents don’t want to or need to be fixed or to be provided with all of the answers. Sometimes they just need to be held and heard. You can read more about that in my support blog here.
Are you prepared to try something new and interrupt patterns of the past?
Identify one area that you know you need help with or would like to improve on, this is a great starting point? Small changes over time make long lasting impacts. Support through the change cycle and beyond will enhance your chances of personal success.
I trust this information is helpful to you and assist you in clearing some of the overwhelm in your life!
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