Healing From Trauma & What That Means For You!

Healing From Trauma & What That Means For You!

We hear about trauma all the time, but do we really understand what it is, how it is affecting us today and how it is shaping our future? If you are reading this, it’s likely that you are wondering the same.  How do we know if we have been affected by trauma? A few weeks ago, I did an introductory interview for my Facebook Community, to my friend Carol from Moveon Counselling and we discussed just that and I wanted to share it with you too! You might be surprised to learn that ‘trauma’ doesn’t always have to be caused by a catastrophic event to be classed as trauma. Read on to hear what Carol has to say and watch our chat to find out more. I hope you enjoy, Cassie. x A message from Carol of Moveon Counselling Being a parent or carer is hard work!! Especially if the person you are caring for needs a lot of support and displays behaviours that need a lot of patience and understanding. It can be pretty overwhelming and never ending! When you’ve had a life that’s thrown you a lot of challenges, then having to cope with the day-to-day problems that come with caregiving and living with disability just seems unfair. Surely life was never meant to be this hard?? When we are born and throughout our childhood, we are discovering, learning and working out what the world is like. Is it safe? Is there a place for me? Am I lovable? Beliefs Beliefs are developed at this time and sometimes they’re negative. They can stay with us for the rest of our...
Does It Matter If Your Child Has High Or Low Functioning Autism?

Does It Matter If Your Child Has High Or Low Functioning Autism?

What’s the difference between high and low functioning autism – and why does it matter? Like many of you, I am a member of several different Facebook groups which relate to my role as a carer – in my case, groups related to autism. I saw a post the other day, written by a distressed mother of an autistic child. She wanted to know why we kept referring to our children as ‘high’ or ‘low’ functioning – she felt that the way it was used meant that if your child wasn’t classified as ‘high’ it made them not as good somehow… What followed were over 200 comments of what ‘high’ and ‘low’ functioning meant to everyone – and the range of responses was astoundingly varied. So, what is the difference? A quick Google search revealed the following top response: “People with autism are often described as being ‘high functioning’ or ‘low functioning’. But there are no such diagnoses in the diagnostic manual. This means that the difference between high and low functioning autism can, in many cases, be based on the personal perspectives of a practitioner or teacher”. Source: https://verywell.com Not exactly helpful, is it?! Let’s consider children on the Autism spectrum The general consensus from my research, is that children who are able to communicate well, are more aware of social conventions, can manage well in academic settings, and quite often appear ‘normal’ are considered ‘high functioning’; whereas children who have limited or no spoken language, look and sound different to their peers, and are less likely to be included in typical classes or activities in an academic...
Emotions for a child – a poem

Emotions for a child – a poem

In the days and weeks that followed my son’s diagnosis, no one could take away our pain or our grief. There isn’t really much that people can say or do to change it? You just have to ride the wave. A few weeks after the shock had settled I received a card and letter from my aunty. She, like all of our family, was hurting deeply for us.  She herself was hurting.  What does the future hold for our darling boy?  Her letter expresse her sorrow and grief.  She penned a beautiful poem. The words flowed from one parent to another. Words that simply could not be said.  Words that strike a chord deep inside. Words that are so special, so precious that they encapsulate every emotion we were feeling. A message I will never forget and always find comfort in.  She gave me permission to feel, feel everything. The parting words from her said simply: “The love just comes easy, you don’t have to try. Let little Matthew help you just live life and enjoy. He is wise beyond his years and will guide the way” Fourteen years later and it is still raw as ever.   Emotions of a Child is dedicated to all people affected by a life changing “diagnosis”.  I hope you find it as special as I do.     EMOTIONS FOR A CHILD by Kerri Trengove Sheer joy and wonder at the miracle of such a perfect, beautiful little bundle Shock and disbelief That your perfect little child has been given a ‘diagnosis’ “there must be a mistake” “I’m going to go to sleep...
Body talk

Body talk

Image supplied by Kate Heaslip Photography When I was growing up, in fact until I had children of my own, I knew very little about the human body and almost less about my own.  There is probably a combination of reasons why: disinterest; lack of guidance; not being in the school curriculum; and of course being preoccupied with social life, dancing and drama (I wanted to be an actor/performer when I was younger). Background – I knew nothing! When Matthew was diagnosed with Cystic Fibrosis (CF) he was 4 weeks old and like most people I knew NOTHING about CF.  Naively I thought that CF had something to do with some sort of physical disability similar to that of Cerebral Palsy.  We walked into the first appointment where various members of the hospital team went over the basics of what CF was, the mechanics of it, how to manage it, what to look out for…. You get the drift! Overwhelm to action! I was totally overwhelmed.  I knew little about the human body and my overwhelm was intensified by the immense grief I was going through. It made me realise if a person has little idea about the mechanics of their own bodies, how can they make informed decisions?  It starts with us right?! As the years went on I learnt more and learnt to listen to my own body.  Did you know your body talks to you?  It does! And if you listen carefully and pay attention it can tell you a whole heap about how you really are! Matthew was 3 and Joshua was 4 months old when I started to study Naturopathy. ...
Insights from a Chronic Health Nurse

Insights from a Chronic Health Nurse

“Carers (whether it be family or not) play a vital role in also caring for my patients, they will always know more than me about my patient…”   Please meet Kelly, she is an award winning passionate nurse who is warm, caring and incredibly funny!  Kelly trained an adult learner to become a qualified nurse.  She has worked with people of all ages and walks of life.  She cares deeply for her patients and their loved ones.  I happened to go to high school with Kelly and we met again the day my step-mum was diagnosed with breast cancer some five years ago. Her words are incredibly pertinent with and has some interesting insights for us all.  Cassie x Please tell us about yourself and how you support or work with carers. I am a nurse currently working within cancer services for a major metropolitan acute adult hospital. I work in an outpatient area, providing support – the term support covers many aspects of care – but briefly this includes; toxicity, medication and treatment management, emotional & psychosocial support for cancer sufferers receiving radiotherapy as part of their cancer treatment regime. As the largest radiation oncology department in Adelaide we treat on average 120 patients per day, we have treated children as young as a few months old right up to the geriatric age group. A patient’s treatment intent can be “radical” with the intent of remission – life preservation, or palliative – life extending or symptom control for end of life care. Can you share the most rewarding and the most challenging parts of your role? The most rewarding...