Healing From Trauma & What That Means For You!

Healing From Trauma & What That Means For You!

We hear about trauma all the time, but do we really understand what it is, how it is affecting us today and how it is shaping our future? If you are reading this, it’s likely that you are wondering the same.  How do we know if we have been affected by trauma? A few weeks ago, I did an introductory interview for my Facebook Community, to my friend Carol from Moveon Counselling and we discussed just that and I wanted to share it with you too! You might be surprised to learn that ‘trauma’ doesn’t always have to be caused by a catastrophic event to be classed as trauma. Read on to hear what Carol has to say and watch our chat to find out more. I hope you enjoy, Cassie. x A message from Carol of Moveon Counselling Being a parent or carer is hard work!! Especially if the person you are caring for needs a lot of support and displays behaviours that need a lot of patience and understanding. It can be pretty overwhelming and never ending! When you’ve had a life that’s thrown you a lot of challenges, then having to cope with the day-to-day problems that come with caregiving and living with disability just seems unfair. Surely life was never meant to be this hard?? When we are born and throughout our childhood, we are discovering, learning and working out what the world is like. Is it safe? Is there a place for me? Am I lovable? Beliefs Beliefs are developed at this time and sometimes they’re negative. They can stay with us for the rest of our...
Confessions Of A Carer Reclaiming Her Health

Confessions Of A Carer Reclaiming Her Health

Giving the best of me will always equal giving the best to you! This week I have been taking a massive dose of my own medicine. My health is first and foremost again. It’s true, when you are a carer and have so much on the go it is easy to lose sight of yourself, how you are feeling, your own health (physical and mental). So quickly can aches, pains and niggles start to rear their heads. We go on, ignore the subtle signs from our bodies and ‘get on with the job at hand’. I have gone from being in a rather active occupation (personal trainer) to sitting for long long periods behind the computer, especially when the kids are at school or Matthew is having healthier periods. I became less active due to an Achilles injury in both the left and right legs which led to poorer food choices too. Being less than mindful of what is happening for me and the creeping in of old habits has led to a number of issues. Some include: Neck and back pain, pain in my hip joints and in my feet Increase in weight – not just a few kilo’s either Less quality sleep due to later nights or ‘fitting in the work when I can’ More glasses of wine & coffee Increased tiredness and decrease in energy levels Poorer food choices for a ‘quick fix’ The list goes on. I am sharing this because my message to you is strong: ‘Take care of your own health and wellbeing otherwise you simply cannot give the best of you to...
16 Ways To Support Carers & Families In Crisis

16 Ways To Support Carers & Families In Crisis

What is it that carers need when they are in crisis? TO BE HEARD | TO BE SEEN | TO BE HELD A few days ago I needed to go to the hospital, an hour away, to collect medicines and drop “samples” off for testing. Normally I would have had spare supplies at home, but with my son’s admission last week being cancelled I was left a little behind the 8 ball… unusual these days but of course I am human. It took longer than expected, but I was pleased to have been granted time to listen to a few podcasts, have a conversation on the phone with my mum, have a cuppa and some breathing space… As I finally walked out of the hospital and back to my car, my name was called out by a gentleman on a phone who I did not recognise. He definitely knew me. He rapidly hung up the phone, introduced himself as “X’s Dad” and the penny dropped. He is his child’s full-time caregiver. This is a man in my private Facebook community, Carers Connect.  I had met him briefly by chance at a local fundraiser for a prominent member of my local community. I stopped and sat down with him and asked how they were all going (son is 15, same age as my boy). He recognised me from the box I was carrying – his son had been on similar medications over the past couple of weeks.  I was shocked however to find out his son had a cardiac arrest just 4 days earlier.  He was in the ICU, he fell and...
Too much to do, so little time . . .

Too much to do, so little time . . .

Ohhhh boy!  I tell you what, the list of things that we “need to do” and “must achieve” is never ending and at times seems to be ever growing. Always “too much to do and not enough time”!  Is that something you can relate to? RESPONSIBILITY Being a carer and parent in modern day society can be beyond challenging.  High level “responsibility” in carrying the health and well-being of others in our hands, the confronting decisions to make and information that we are expected to face daily, ongoing financial and social pressures, the sometimes unattainable standards of expectation of ourselves to perform and add to that the noise of social media can leave us feeling deflated, overwhelmed and simply not good enough. When all we really want to do is provide the best quality care to the ones we love.  Let’s face it, most of us would give our left leg if it meant we could take away the pain, hurt and suffering our loved ones experience. CATCH 22 Many people that I talk to simply don’t see any way out of this “catch 22” situation… No light at the end of the tunnel and no way to change or adjust the pressures of their lives.  The sad fact is that more often than not, something is missed, something or someone comes last and doesn’t get the attention or fuel they need to go on.  So the stressors continue and the stress levels increase and become prolonged. DANGER As humans we release a series of hormones when our body perceives it is in “danger”, these are adrenaline, cortisol and oxytocin.  But when we...